Why This is The Best Time?

Upgrading and Training in troubled time

Recently we have been hit by the corono-virus outbreak and we have all but avoided almost all activities except what is essential to our daily lives. From all quarters we were bombarded by advisory to stay away from unnecessary events.

Some things slowed to what seemed like a grinding halt and we found ourselves falling into a trap of sorts. All of us are just waiting.

Waiting.

Waiting.

The Drudgery of it all

I will admit that for about 2 months since COVID-19 arrived on our shore, I found myself in victim mode. As sign-up of courses and sessions start to taper off to a few unproductive enquiries, I start to distract myself bingeing on Netflix and Udemy courses online. The more screen-time I engage myself in, the more disengaged I am with what is important.

Waiting….and watching out for updates on new reported cases of the infected and reading with rapt attention at dry and boring MOH website. Studying links between different cases of infection as if they were a matter of life and death!

Waiting….and ranting at behaviours of some people out there….herd mentality, hoarding and mild hysteria popping up all over the place.

The Question

And I wonder….what am I doing to put myself ahead when things start to return to the way it was before? How should we do things if COVID-19 is here to stay in the long run? 

The Attempt to Break Out

Well I did some online courses

Some are on topics I am very familiar with like NLP, coaching and hypnosis. Others in areas that I am currently developing like energy works and neuroplasticity. The more I did these courses online, I find a brooding sense of dissociation beginning to take hold of me. Suddenly it occurred to me that for me to fully understand the material that was presented in those courses I need to apply it on real people in real situations…otherwise what the trainers are saying are just blah blah blah and nothing substantial.

The Epiphany

My client, Madam Dee (not her real name) said something that hit a chord with me while we were wrapping up a session. She thanked me for being willing to see her in the time when everyone is avoiding contact. To her, working on her issue is essential and not something that should wait. She said that all that we needed to do was to be personally accountable to our own hygiene and we will all be fine. She didn’t want to play catch up ONLY after everything is OK because she figured she was behind the curve when she had allowed her depressive thoughts to manifest itself into a psycho-somatic condition of a gastro-intestinal nature.

It was a wake-up call for me.

I gathered a few things from all these

The Lessons

  1. I am reminded of an NLP presupposition that “Knowledge is useless unless it is in the Bones” There is only so much use for “head knowledge”, unless it is ingrained into our system through Practice.
  2. Best time to get training and practice is BEFORE you need it
  3. You owe it to yourself to prepare to ride the next wave or else you will be washed away if not crushed by it. Like Mdm Dee puts it, it is even essential to do so.
  4. It is still possible to get a group together for training and practice if we are all conscientious and responsible and  adhere to strict hygiene standards.
  5. There is no need to roll over and give up self-development in light of the current situation

Prognosticating Procrastination

I wanted to write about Procrastination. You know, the big P word that people have blamed for everything and anything. So many people have written about it…the personal effectiveness people, the Getting-Things-Done camp, the procrastination busters and it makes me wonder if I can offer anything different. So I joined the union.

The Procrastinator United couldn’t take off as a collective force coz I saw the sign when I arrive:

The National Procrastination Day has been postponed…again!!
OK, OK, OK, it’s a weak attempt at a joke although some of you are like me, finding the irony of it all tickling to the bones. For the record, the funny bone has got nothing to do with this.

Dilly-dally, dawdle, drag, delay, daydream, lag, loiter, linger, laze around, mark time, running on the spot, deadlock, hitting the wall, and that looming feeling that the shit is hitting the fan.

That’s crap, yeah.

There are those who don’t start. There are those who start and got stuck. There are those who start too late. There are those who don’t have a clue. There are those who never finish what they have. There are those who get distracted easily. There are those who just don’t care until the fire is burning their collective ass (atypically reframed as “I thrive under pressure” camp). There are those who feel bad about it. There are those who would rather focus on the pleasure of doing something else. There are excuses, re-delegations, denials, and all that jazz.

There’s no stereotype as far as I can see from my coaching practice and consulting work.

The Perfectionist. The Pessimist. The Optimist. The Saboteur. The Self-Saboteur. The poor time manager. The ineffective state manager. The Over-confident. The Victim. The Overwhelmed. The Blue Housefly.

Which one are you?

The task is too big, too detailed, too boring, too exciting, too easy, too demeaning. Too too.

The reward is too small, you are too undeserving, you are too stupid and that too. What’s the big deal?

As far as coaching is concerned, I find I don’t really have to deal with the root cause of procrastination coz focusing on the problem is the problem in the first place. It looks too big for comfort. However, if we focus on generating the behaviour and the attitude required to get things done within an ecological time and space, we are on the home stretch. Go PUBLIC:

  • Presenting Cost (of not doing) and Benefit (of doing now)
  • Underlying attitude required
  • Break it down to bite size chunk (milestone targets)
  • Leveraging on resource available
  • Into Action
  • Create instant gratifications (small rewards for yourself)

Like the old Chinese saying about the element water: That which carries the vessel can also overturn it. We don’t want to slam procrastination coz it is useful. I’ll leave it to my next post for this.

For now, all we need is an awareness of our behavior and belief or value that drives it. If it isn’t useful or appropriate, change it. Non-action is a habit. Check this post out for the importance of awareness and how it can make positive habit-changing or –forming.

Watch out for my next post: Not-now to avoid Not-again.

Update: For those of you who must get a quick-fix to your procrastination. Here’s a tip from your friendly neighborhood Coach: Procrastinate your procrastination!!

The Pathlight Centre will turn 10 come January 2018!!

Everywhere I look, there are stark reminders that the year is coming to an end. I am just getting used to typing “2017” and suddenly 2018 is knocking on the door already.

So we were sitting around goofing off and bantering as usual after hours to decompress and it dawned on us that come 2018, we have reached another landmark point.

The Pathlight Centre will turn 10 come January 2018!!

We would have been running our flagship 5-PATH Hypnotherapy Certification Course for the 10th year. 40 odd batches and about 220 graduates later….we are still at it.

We just got news that after spending a week in Texas with Cal Banyan…braving 30 hours travel both ways, a couple of storms and lack of familiar food, our associate Nancy Wong has passed all required tests and is now a qualified Banyan CPHI (Certified Professional Hypnotherapy Instructor).

Good things come in pairs indeed.

The addition of another trainer means that we are stretching our reach further but we have not neglected our home base, Singapore.

Since we are feeling all nostalgic and reminiscing the 10 years, we decided to go foolish and offer our flagship Hypnotherapy Certification and training at the ORIGINAL 2008 published fee!

That’s right you get the experience of 3 qualified hypnosis trainers (25 years or more altogether) at just SGD3800 just like we offered 10 years ago!!

This rate is applicable to classes we will be running in 2018 and when you do a full payment upon signing up. You have up to 31st December to enjoy a whopping $1000 off our 2018 course fee. This fee is limited to classes conducted in Singapore for 2018 only.

Limited to only first 10 sign ups before 31st December.

So hurry….give us a holler at +65 91868062(Nancy) or support@pathlightcentre.com or click here to drop us a message.

You are not getting another offer like this….hmmm…maybe our 20th Anniversary.

Coping with Stress and Anxiety

The survey “Working in Asia”, by Roffey Park, has found that not only do Singapore workers spend more hours at work relative to their Hong Kong and China peers, more than half (52 per cent of Singapore workers surveyed) say their stress level has gone up over the last six months.
— quote from S’pore workplace stress on the rise: survey

In a recent global survey of 1,000 corporations across 15 countries, commissioned by The Regus Group it was found that the levels of workplace stress have risen over the last two years. The survey found 6 in 10 workers in significant global economies experienced increased workplace stress.
— quote from STRESS LEVELS ARE RISING WORLDWIDE

Emotional Health Issues Worldwide
— source from Huge Rise in Global Employee Depression, Stress, and Anxiety Since 2012

Stress and Anxiety

These are alarming facts. Everyday great demands and responsibilities are upon us. Some people manage, but many did not, which lead to stress, thus significantly affect their wellbeing. You may be one of those people. Are you looking for ways of freeing yourself from anxiety?

Anxiety and stress can manifest differently for different people but here are the common physical signs of anxiety or stress. (source)
– Racing heartbeat
– Shortness of breath
– Chest tightness
– Dry mouth
– Butterflies in stomach
– Nausea
– Urge to pass urine/empty bowels
– Tremors
– Sweating
– Panic attacks
– Insomnia

Here are the common psychological signs of anxiety or stress. (source)
– Inner tension
– Agitation
– Fear of losing control
– Irrational dread that something catastrophic is going to happen (such as blackout, seizure, heart attack or death)
– Irritability
– Feelings of detachment
– Phobias and fears

Here are some worries that cause anxiety or stress. (source)
– fear of being around other people
– anxiety in specific social situations,
– anxiety in your relationships with particular people at home, at school or at work.

When fear is over exaggerated and out of proportion, fear becomes anxiety.
When you body/mind encountered danger, you either fight, flight or freeze.

It is a normal part of the human protection system to experience this fight-or-flight response, but only when there is real and present danger. To experience prolonged flight-or-flight creates feelings of anxiety. It is often rooted in a previous experience that triggered fear or in a general anxiety and worry about your situation at home or at work. There can also be anxiety without knowing what is causing it, a general feeling of anxiety known as “free floating” anxiety. (source)

Research shows that prolonged exposure to cortisol and other stress related hormones can cause:(source)
– Memory problems
– Weakened immune system
– Weaker bones
– Increased blood pressure
– Reduce fertility

So, how can hypnotherapy help?

Working with us, we will be using hypnosis to help you identify the root of stress or anxiety. You will gain clarity about your issues and learn to handle them more effectively, break free of negative thought patterns, and to react more positively and more confidently. As a result, you will begin to feel calmer, more balanced, and regain your ability to handle your life in a more effective manner.

Talk to us if you would like us to help you deal with your stress and anxiety issues, we can help you.
Call or whatsapp us @ +65 9856 4998 for a free initial consultation.

If you would like to know how you could help people dealing with stress and anxiety and more, come join us in our Certified Hypnotherapy Course.

 

image source https://morguefile.com/search/morguefile/3/stress/pop

Treat Depression with Hypnotherapy

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Simply being sad is not depression, but in addition to being sad, there is a sense of emptiness, hopelessness, worthlessness, things and activities that once interest you no longer interesting …

Depression is very often triggered by a traumatic event. One example of a traumatic event is when an individual loses their love ones through death or divorce. He or she has to deal with the belongings and the responsibilities left behind. And in the process if the individual did not have enough or proper time to grieve and manage the loss, depression may set in.

Another example of depression is losing a job, or any major financial changes. The sudden lost of a main income, the not knowing of what tomorrow will become.

THE SIGNS AND SYMPTOMS OF DEPRESSION
Here are some of the typical signs of depression. (source)

Symptom #1
“Now, I can’t get out of bed in the morning. I just don’t have the same interest in things that I used to.”

Symptom #2
“I have body pains and I’m worried that I may have (fibromyalgia, cancer, arthritis, diabetes, etc.).”

Symptom #3
“I can’t seem to stop overeating and I gained 40 pounds.” Or “I have gone back to drinking, smoking cigarettes or pot, etc.”

Symptom #4
“I’m having trouble sleeping at night and I’m exhausted.”

Symptom #5
“I cry at the drop of a pin, but mostly I feel numb.”

Medically, the doctor could help with the above symptoms with some drugs like anti-depressants, sleep medication, etc, but they are only a temporary relief, they are not fixing the underlying root cause.

HOW DOES HYPNOTHERAPY TREAT DEPRESSION? (source)
1. It helps you enter the subconscious:
First, we drop down from the conscious mind, which is only 10% of the mind into the subconscious mind. Now we are addressing the whole person, 100% of the mind rather than just treating the symptoms.

2. It helps you identify the “unfinished business”.
People often have what Dr. Fritz Perls called “unfinished business” with whatever has been lost, be it a loved one, a job, or a home. These unresolved feelings, such as resentments, regrets, blame, anger, guilt, jealousy, and fear are stored in the body and must be released as soon after the triggering event as possible. Otherwise they become deeply buried beneath the numbness created by the anti-depressant drugs, the addictive behavior, and the concurrent repression that occurs when trauma and grief go untreated. Clinical hypnotherapy works for depression because it removes the underlying basis of depression and completes the unfinished business that otherwise continues to recycle as self-sabotaging thoughts and behaviors.

3. It helps you “finish” the “unfinished business” and release the stored emotions/experiences.
With hypnotherapy, we can go down to the deepest level of these traumatic experiences, memories and stored emotions to release them from the mind and body. When this hypnotherapy process is completed, the client reports that their depression has lifted, that they have stopped the compulsive thoughts or behavior, and that they are ready to resume living their lives again.

4. It helps you replace the trauma with positivity.
With each healing session of clinical hypnotherapy, we can replace the fearful repetitive thoughts that often haunt people following a traumatic experience. Positive affirmations now work because the underlying emotional release has been accomplished.

5. It helps you use the power of hypnotic suggestion to create long-term improvement.
Hypnotherapy provides an effective way to access the individual’s ability to affect the physical body. Once self-sabotaging thoughts and behaviors have been resolved, the individual can begin to use hypnotic suggestibility to improve the body’s functioning. Hypnotherapy can be very helpful in correcting patterns of restless sleep, low energy or libido, headaches or chronic pain. And one can use hypnotherapy to increase motivation to exercise and eat properly.

Consistent research and methodology refinement has allowed hypnotherapy to progress as an advanced form of therapy to the point where clinical hypnotherapy is now regularly considered as a treatment option for depression. Working in tandem with a group of powerful psychotherapy techniques, hypnotherapy can be a highly successful form of treatment for individuals with depression.

 

Talk to us if you are want to overcome depression, we can help you.
Call or whatsapp us @ +65 9856 4998 for a free initial consultation.

If you would like to know how you could help people dealing with depression and more, come join us in our Certified Hypnotherapy Course.

 

 

 

Source from http://web.wellness-institute.org/blog/bid/266024/five-ways-to-treat-depression-with-hypnotherapy
Image source from https://morguefile.com/search/morguefile/3/depressed/pop

You Can Be Your Own Hypnotist!!

Reap the benefits of Self-Hypnosis

Hypnosis: A Naturally-occurring State
Forget about what you might have thought hypnosis is! It is more than just the Hollywood-touted staring at a dangling pocket watch or a sparkling trinket of any sort.

In fact, hypnosis is a natural occurring state of mind we all experience many times in the course of the day:

  • When you are not aware of the passage of time when you watch a good movie or read a good book.
  • When you walk into a room and not able to put your finger on why you are there in the first place.
  • When you are ‘in the zone’ during a ball game and only notice you got some bruises and bumps after.

That’s right, the hypnotic state occurs when we are in a focused state of attention. When properly harnessed, it is a valuable tool that you can use to alleviate stress, manage your thoughts and drive your goals.

Challenge of Modern Day Living

reflection These days, we see more and more people turning to hypnotherapy to help them get over past emotional issues, deal with stress and overcome undesirable behaviour habits or patterns.

Let’s face the fact: if they can deal with all of those challenges consciously, logically they would have mustered all the resource they think they can get their hands on and be done with it.

There is a growing awareness that a lot of internal resources are left untapped and therefore under-ultilised. And speaking of the internal aspect, these people are also projecting their fear, anger, guilt and sadness from the numerous programming of experience from the past.

Untapped internal resources and past emotional baggage are like balls and chains, slowing or even pegging them to the spot from moving ahead effectively. Unresolved emotions have been found to be linked with ailments like allergy, skin disease and even cancer.

Hypnosis helps
So seeing a hypnotist can help you unlock unrealized potentials giving you an edge moving ahead. It can also lighten your load by freeing you from old emotions that are not relevant anymore. Imagine what more you can achieve and the peace of mind you can have!

To book a session for assessment, please contact: Nancy at +65 91868062

You can be your own Hypnotist
Many will not ever consider seeing a hypnotherapist simply because they do not want to be in therapy. They are not comfortable with revealing their deepest feelings with a relative stranger. Even more so, they are not aware that they need to deal with some of the issues they have.

For the former, Self-hypnosis does not require the presence of another person, you are entirely on your own and working through your issues in the comfort and privacy of your own mind.

For the latter, ask yourself: “Will the ability to relieve stress and achieve deep relaxation be something I can benefit from?” You bet!!

Along cometh 7th Path Self-Hypnosis
At The Pathlight Centre, we run a series of workshop for autohypnosis.

Self Hypnosis gives you benefits almost akin to that of working with an actual hypnotherapist with the added advantage of total privacy. It can help with and not limited to:

  • Stress Relief
  • Deep Relaxation
  • Increase Focus and Attention Span
  • Deal with Toxic Emotions
  • Improve Sleep Quality
  • Change behavioural patterns that have been hindering your success
  • Manage childhood issues leading to low self-esteem and relationship challenges
  • Realise untapped potentials
  • Align your belief to who you really are

The 7th Path Advantage
A renowned master hypnotherapist, Calvin D Banyan, developed 7th Path Self-hypnosis from his hypnotherapy methodology 5-PATH (5-phase Advanced Transformational Hypnosis).

It is unique and sets itself apart from other self-hypnosis techniques, often just Direct Drive or visualization. It employs emotional resonance and contemplative tendencies of the mind to achieve holistic benefits for the practitioner that goes beyond what traditional self-hypnosis can attain. It has four big advantages:

  • Mind-Body-Spirit
  • Insight Therapy
  • Affect (or Emotion)-based
  • Deprogramming (of old unuseful and irrelevant patterns)

Enrolment for Basic Class
Date: 18 Nov 2016 (Friday) 7.15 pm to 10 pm and 19 Nov 2016 (Saturday) 10 am to 6 pm
Duration: 1.5 days
Workshop Fee: SGD 480

Click here to sign up today!

ADDICTION MANAGEMENT

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Feeling bored? Craving for a smoke constantly? Drinking excessively?
Excessive or compulsive gaming or snacking or shopping?
Trouble getting yourself out of these compulsive activities?

When you can’t seem to stop doing a compulsive act and it is affecting your daily life, you could have an addiction.
It could all begins with the feel bad & distract cycle.

You feel bad and hence you start distracting yourself by doing something else (smoking, gaming, shopping, etc) to relieve that bad feelings. There is nothing wrong with distraction but if the distraction gets out of hand, and you start losing control of your normal daily life, then yes, it has become a problem. It is difficult to break out of an addiction but it is not impossible, you just need a little help.

So, how can hypnotherapy help?

Working with us, we will be using hypnosis work to help you resolve the negative and distracting patterns so that you could regain control of your feelings. During which, you gain clarity about your addiction issues and learn to handle them more effectively. As a result, you will begin to feel more balanced, and regain your ability to handle your life in a more effective manner.

  • Take control of your feelings.
  • Resolve the root cause to your addiction issues
  • Imagine a life, feeling in healthy, in charged and control of yourself

Let us help you through proven methods of Hypnosis, Hypnotherapy, NLP and our years of coaching experience. Talk/Whatsapp us now at 9856 4998 to find out more!

ANGER MANAGEMENT

Do you have an uncontrollable need or desire to scream, yell or even lash out at someone or something or even yourself?

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Anger can be manifested in many different situations. Sometimes it begins with a relatively minor event which goes round and round in your head, followed by additional little things that irritate. It builds, slowly, until anger erupts. You may arrive home stressed from work (or has had a stressful day looking after your children), and everything gets on your nerves.

You are not alone.

Anger is always the symptom of a problem, ranging from mild to wild. Sometimes, there seems to be no particular trigger that sets off anger.

Anger is an expression for displeasure, unfairness, injustice or even antagonism for some people in extreme cases. The feeling of anger is a natural way for our body to respond to unfair treatment received. If this feeling is not dealt with, in a long run, this unresolved anger can create a downward spiral, bringing about mental health problems such as depression, as well as physical health issues such as elevated blood pressure. Anger can turn into rage; a violent uncontrollable anger.

So, how can hypnotherapy help you?

  • Gain clarity to the source of your anger problem.
  • Resolve the root cause to your anger issues
  • Regain control over anger
  • Imagine your life, feeling in charged and in control of yourself

Our hypnotherapists will first help you to establish the underlying issues that may be the source of your temper problems. Working at a conscious, unconscious and subconscious level with you, in order to help you change the negative thought processes. Strengthening your mind by widening perspectives about how to handle anger triggers. And regain your ability to handle situations in more appropriate manners. As a result, helping you to feel calmer and more relaxed, consider forgiveness and non-judgement to the person(s) whom you think has wronged you.

Let us help you through proven methods of Hypnosis, Hypnotherapy, NLP and our years of coaching experiences. Talk to us now – Call/Whatsapp us at 9856 4998!

Having The Right Attitude

Having The Right attitude

As a professional hypnotist, it is up to you to have the perfect attitude portrayed to your clients. They are coming to you for help and want to know that they are in good hands. With the right kind of personality in your professional environment, you can greatly improve your chances of successfully helping a client, given that they will believe you are the perfect person for the job and have unstoppable confidence in your abilities.

Be Likable!

Every single piece of research that has been done has shown that one of the best determining factors when it comes to the success that the client will have is whether or not they like the hypnotist as a person. Be likable! when you are, your clients are going to love coming back to see you and they’ll also love giving you referrals as well. Be cordial and never argue with your clients, keeping a positive attitude at all times. This single thing will go a long way with you and make sure that the clients not only like you, but actually have better sessions since they will feel like they are in good hands.

Project Unstoppable Confidence 

From the very first time that you meet a client, they should feel like you are going to be the ideal person to help them with their problems. They should have a constant stream of signals showing them that you are the perfect fit, with the best source of this being the confidence that you display towards them when you are meeting with them.

One thing that hypnotists in training are always reminded of is that “hypnosis is a game of confidence.” Without having confidence in you, there is no game to play, though. Fortunately for you, this is one thing that you have a lot of control over if you know what you are doing. Anytime your client asks a question, you should confidently answer them and let them know that you know for a fact that you can help them. Never hesitate to tell them that whatever they are having issues with won’t be a problem for you. You are, after all, a professional. You should be presenting yourself as such at every chance you get.

Think about saying things like: ”Of course! We deal with that kind of problem all the time.” This lets them know that you are in control and that you are confident you’ll be capable of anything. These are simply routine issues you are working on, right?

With these two things in mind, you’ll greatly increase your clients’ confidence in you, thereby increasing your chances of success. The more they believe in you, the more they will believe in the kinds of changes that they can make to themselves. By simply being likable and having the right amount of confidence, you’ll be much better off once you start building an actual relationship with the client.

When Relaxing Hypnosis Becomes a Relaxing Nap

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Hypnosis can be one of the most relaxing things that you ever undertake, so it only makes sense that sometimes your clients can doze off and take a short nap during a session. This is most commonly a problem that you’ll face during afternoon sessions, but nevertheless it is something that you’ll have to learn how to deal with in the right way.

Before The Session

Before the session with your client, you should be sure to remind them of a few things if they look sleepy. If they seem more tired than usual, remind them that if they fall asleep they are going to miss the entire session and have to pay $125+ dollars for a nap they could have taken at home for free.

If you have a lot of sleepy patients, you can give them inspirational material in the waiting room that will get them excited about the possibilities, rather than giving them old magazines to read that will likely only put them to sleep. Inspiration can go a long way when you are trying to keep sleepy clients awake!

If You Suspect Your Client Falls Asleep

If you are suspecting that your client has fallen asleep, you should keep your level of speech and cadence regular and simply ask for a response without startling them. You might think about instilling finger signals in your clients as a way to give yes and no answers. This is easy to add to hypnotic suggestion and it can be a great way to find out if they are actually asleep. If you don’t have an answer, they have fallen asleep.

What About Snoring?

Snoring isn’t always a sign of falling asleep, since it is primarily caused by a simple relaxation in the throat. If they are snoring, that doesn’t necessarily mean that they are asleep. You should, however, still ask for a response anyway just to be sure. Without being sure, you might be giving a hypnosis session to a sleeping client that you weren’t aware of.

Stay On Time

You should also make sure that you stay on time with your appointments. Sometimes you are going to run long, but you should be mindful of your clients time and understand that the longer you go the more relaxed they will be and the greater the chance that they are going to fall asleep. This is also important because your clients will have a schedule to keep in their own life, so they don’t need to fall asleep for an extra thirty minutes in a session that they aren’t getting any benefit out of anyway.

Your clients are going to fall asleep on you from time to time, that much is simply unavoidable. If you know how to handle it in the right way, however, it won’t be much of a problem. You can gently alert them and keep them engaged without relaxing them too much, although this is an art form of sorts that you have to learn as you go.

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